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What we stop is as important as what we start. 

We all have outdated practices, old mindsets, and habits that no longer serve us. We tend to default to the familiar, even when that familiar is broken.

One broken practice I often observe is the cycle of complaining about everything and everyone.

Executive coach Marshall Goldsmith found that almost a third of American workers spend 20 hours or more monthly complaining about their bosses or upper management; that doesn’t even include time spent complaining about their peers and other topics.

Based on my anecdotal evidence as a human, but most importantly as a trained educator and HR professional, these same people talk about how they have no time and are busy. 

Imagine the productivity gain of reducing all those complaining hours. 

Imagine the mental and emotional wellness you could restore to your world with negativity reduction.

Complaining only momentarily feels good because it triggers dopamine. Complaining negates the ownership of your behaviors and actions that have helped frame the current situation. Complaining strengthens the blind spots we have about our contribution to the issues surrounding us. 

Stop complaining. Start owning. Take personal responsibility for what you can control. We either passively allow or actively create our environment. 

Your words and actions have power. 

Reflection:

  • What personal and professional behaviors and patterns need to be tweaked to move forward?
  • Whether it’s a person, process, or policy, where do you need to focus energy for successful transformation? What can you control and contribute to for productive, lasting change?
  • What if we stop complaining and blaming circumstances and instead identify how we contribute to outcomes we are frustrated with? 
  • How can we align our actions with desired changes and drive results while managing challenges?
  • Who can help you identify your blind spots and things you have the power to change? Assistance makes us all better. Strategies and alliances can be formed and strengthened. Time can be invested in change-making conversations instead of time wasted.  

A good assessment of where you currently need to focus energy for successful transformation is to pay attention to what you are negatively attuned to.  Pinpoint some needed areas of actionable change and prioritize strengthening your self-awareness.

Your time and productivity ROI from personal and professional development is enormous. 

What if we dont immediately need new processes or systems, but instead first think about what we need to stop and what we need to start?

My personal intersection of mind, body, spirit:

Body side note: I have triggered an old running injury again and I’ve had to stop running temporarily the last couple of weeks, since completing the CLE Hermes 10. I used to try to push through these things, but now I know stopping, assessing, cross training, and doing both rehab and prehab will get me where I want to be quicker!

Mind side note: I am trying to stop searching for perfection because it can lead to paralysis. Excellence and perfection are not the same.

Spirit side note: I am focusing on finishing all things well. God goes before, beside, and behind. God knows the beginning and the end. I need to just lean into His will and His way. My responsibility is just to press toward God’s high calling on my life. His power begins and ends His work in and through me.

HealthFull Living: Create a Life you Love

Welcome Back to the Blog!

I’m excited to say that HealthFullLiving is at home here now. 

While I have left all of the old, outdated, and somewhat embarrassing souls and sweatband posts up, especially since I still run, walk, adventure, live, laugh, and love, I want to lean in to a more strategic focus.

I have spent the last few years writing, speaking, and sharing through many other mediums, but the time has come to collaborate at this location again. Life moves at the speed of relationships, and I want to connect!

As a coach, faith-led strategist, consultant, concierge, communicator, and curator of stories and information, I envision this space to be a mutually beneficial partnership that helps you and I create and live lives we love—on purpose & with purpose. For me, this involves being a purveyor of Mind, Body, and Spirit.

I have always enjoyed writing and sharing, so my abundant LIFE needs to include that. You can check out my LinkedIN and my Facebook, but HealthFULLliving, as a blog, will combine a growth mindset and lifelong learning posture to coach and coax you into whatever authentic, vulnerable, and transformational path you may desire personally and professionally.


Mission

To inspire and equip individuals to live abundantly by aligning mind, body, and spirit. Through faith, professional wisdom, and purposeful living, Healthfull Living empowers people to grow, lead, and thrive in every area of life—personally, professionally, and spiritually.


Vision

A world where people live fully—grounded in purpose, strengthened by faith, and energized by well-being. Healthfull Living envisions a community of individuals who are strong like a cord of three strands—thriving in their health, leadership, and calling—while making meaningful impact in their homes, workplaces, and communities.


Core Values

Faith-Centered Living
We believe in God’s promises and the power of living on mission. Our faith is the foundation that guides everything we do.

Wholeness
True well-being is found at the intersection of mind, body, and spirit. We cultivate all three to create sustainable, joyful, and abundant living.

Empowerment
Everyone has the power to transform their life. We provide tools, insight, and encouragement to help others step into their potential and walk boldly in purpose.

Authenticity
We lead and share with transparency, integrity, and heart. We honor the full spectrum of life—because people are multidimensional.

Growth
We believe personal growth fuels professional growth. Through learning, coaching, and development, we help people evolve into the best version of themselves.

Community
We were not meant to do life alone. We build bridges, foster belonging, and create safe spaces for others to be seen, heard, and supported.

At Healthfull Living, we believe you weren’t made to just survive—you were made to thrive. To live a life rooted in faith, filled with purpose, and aligned in mind, body, and spirit. Our symbol, the rope of three cords, reminds us that true strength comes from wholeness—and that you are strongest when you live from the inside out.

This is a space where personal growth meets professional purpose. Where we talk about leadership and wellness, faith and focus, family and calling—because life doesn’t fit in a single box, and neither do you.

Whether you’re navigating a career shift, seeking deeper purpose, or simply ready to live more fully, Healthfull Living is here to cheer you on, equip you, and walk alongside you.

Your life exists on purpose and for purpose. Let’s build it—boldly, joyfully, and intentionally.

Together, let’s CREATE and LIVE a life we love.


Who is we?

You may notice that sometimes I use “we” instead of “me”. HealthFULLliving as a brand is an LLC that was started by my husband, Joanthan Buckland, and me, Jessica Buckland. While I will be the primary driver on this blog, you may also see insight from him. He is also available to help you strategize around concepts to strengthen your mind, body, and spirit.

What’s next?

Check out the blog’s About #HealthfullLiving and About Jessica Buckland sections.

Drop a comment here to say hi. Subscribe to blog updates. Share Healthfull Living with your network.

Marathon Musings

This week began week 7 of the above 18 week Full Marathon Hal Higdon Training Plan. 564 miles of running are virtuously mapped out in this handy and easy to follow guide.

Said mileage is not counting the final 26.2 mile parade/death march/symposium on masochism, in celebration of the hard work, early mornings, chaffing, blisters, endless loads of laundry, and buckets of sweat and tears.  I have been following Hal’s plan for every single 26.2 mile event in which I have ever towed the line and definitely recommend it.

Hal’s stuff is precise, easy to follow, and doesn’t have all kinds of weird pace and tempo calculations thrown in the mix. My brain is always processing, running is my mediation and time away from precision. Essentially, Hal could’ve written “Running for Dummies.” In fact, he may have. (Someone look into this and let me know)

This week, Valentine’s week, week 7 of the Intermediate Level Training Plan is very significant for me. Now that I’m training for marathon #10, my training doesn’t really kick into gear until week 7. My “off” season running patterns consist of 25-30 miles a week with cross and strength training in the mix, so until I jump above that mileage threshold, my training is more mental prep and anticipation than anything.

I am often asked about my routines, practices, and mileage, so I hope to give the inquiring minds a glimpse into what a very average, middle aged, slow long distance runner does to maintain her mediocre paces as the weeks progress.  (That sentence needs read with all the sarcasm in which I wrote it. I actually kick my tail, own my nutrition, and strive for my best, and yet still come up as a solid mid packer. I guess not every long term love story exists in the land of non stop bliss and progress. Sometimes love is grand. Sometimes it’s mediocre. Sometimes people are oddly inspired by normal. I’m banking on this. I want you to read my angry running rants, sappy running love stories, runs that were inspired into sonnets by nature and birds and joy, and those runs which end with my hip cursing me out.)

I had anticipated telling you about the struggles running and I have been having lately with our relationship, but since it’s Valentine’s Day, I want to honor running for the goodness it has done for me and save the honesty, authenticity and bad mouthing for some upcoming posts. While we are never “on again/off again” (There is no off. Maybe that’s my problem. Maybe I’m worn out.), running and I definitely vacillate between engaging in a great sordid love affair, and me playing bitter, angry, and jealous because running seems to dole out the awards and gains I know it has stashed somewhere to other less dedicated people at high rates than it does to me.

Maybe I’m just tired today. Maybe I’m still upset that my husband kept up with me on our pace run Saturday even though he was suffering from some bird flu deal and I, a perfectly healthy specimen, couldn’t even leave him in my dust no matter how hard I tried. Why does he get to snot, cough, and pant his way to a fast finish while I dug deep and pushed hard, only to find him still at my heels? I did have a minor emotional melt down when we hit stop on our Garmin watches, but then I recovered. I can’t break up with running just yet. Passion is a 2 edged sword and you can’t have endorphin highs to the moon without dealing with some demons that creep in and try to convince you to call it quits on occasion.

The true, unadulterated psychotic hold that running has on me exists, in part, because of how hard I work at it sometimes. Can we ever appreciate fully what we don’t have to pour our heart and soul into?

Perhaps, yes, I should revisit what training plans and approaches I use as I endeavor at some point to run the all elusive sub 4 Hour Full marathon, but for now,  the hectic pace of life, work, family, and marathon seasons past is telling me to run for fun in Pittsburgh in may and remember, I don’t have to do this, I get to do this.

A Glance at my Running Week:

Mondays I do the run scheduled for Tuesdays plus strength training/core work
Tuesdays I do the runs scheduled for Wednesdays (medium length)
Wednesdays I cross train plus
strength training/core work
Thursdays and Saturdays I do the 2nd medium length run (which is when I squeeze th pace run) and the other day I do the long, slow run and sometimes do a fast finish or mimic race pace towards th end to get used to keeping it up while tired. It depends no my work and life schedule on which I do on which day. Flexibility is the only way to get it done. The training plan is not a legal document, just an excellent guide. Get it in when and how you can.
Fridays  I do the run scheduled for Thursdays plus strength training/core work
Saturday, see Thursday
Sundays are my “Rest” from fitness day.  I go for a walk before church by myself to pray and prepare, and then often go for another walk in the evening with the dog.

 

 PSA: Dressing in the dark for a 5:30 AM Run and Strength Training Session could result in a deadly mix of color palettes (Although, navy and white on black and purple could be the new trend. Who knows?) . Thankfully, the “lunks” at Planet Fitness are also in a semi sleep deprived state and most likely don’t notice. Also, I don’t want anyone looking at me when I work out. Also, don’t talk to me because the suns not even stinking out yet. Also, I smell. Please breathe my sweaty air and let it keep you away from engaging me in an overly giddy pre-dawn chat session. I’ve come to get the job done so my productivity can kick off, not to make new BFF’s 🙂

 

Why Monday Matters

Monday has long been the bane of human existence. If you follow the generally accepted calendar, Monday is day one of the “work week”, and thus the perceived dreaded bearer of bad news. Those who are more optimistic try to convince themselves that Monday has magical fairy powers to motivate the otherwise immobile sacks of human flesh that we all have felt like at some point.

From the Garfield comic strips, which tell a tale of Monday woe, to the the ever present social media memes declaring Monday to be anything from the day for Motivation and fresh starts to the 24 hour time period in which we should all retreat into an apocalyptic style shelter and pray for survival.

Whether you cheer and “rah, rah, rah” on Mondays because this is your week, your time, your chance, your moment to shine, or rather choose to pull your blankets over your head in anxiety ridden sorrow, Monday seems to carry with it a certain mystique.

For better or worse, Monday is not going anywhere anytime soon, and the call to responsibility and action has been sounded from deep within its cavernous expanse. Monday matters because to manage Monday means to manage yourself. To prioritize your time, tasks, and energy on day 1 of the week, means to produce and move forward with the behaviors that become accomplished actions, which in turn result in accomplishment and accolades.

I will be the first to admit that this Monday, February 6, 2017, tried to kick my tail. This Monday truly played its role as the playground bully quite well. You see, this isn’t just any ol’ Monday, it is the Monday after the Super Bowl. When my alarm went off at 5:45 AM, which is actually later than the optimal for me 5:15 AM needed to squeeze things in, I forgot that it was Monday. I actually thought it was Sunday. Once I realized that “Groundhog Day” had already passed (ancient movie reference which makes me seem old, but wise), I was faced with a choice.

  • I could get up, dress up, show up, and never give up, or
  • I could reenter my carb, fat, and sugar induced coma that I justified due to it being Super Bowl Sunday. The good news is that I do not drink alcohol. The bad news is, studies have proven that unhealthy eating, habits, and patterns can knock you for a loop and produce a legitimate state of “hangover”.

I am happy to report that I chose the former. I got my sorry tail out of bed and went about my usual running and strength training routine. I then caffeinated myself, put on business clothes, and went to live out my calling and purpose ( I said I don’t drink alcohol. I never once mentioned my drug habit. If it’s from a bean (coffee) or a leaf (tea) and produces hyper focus and productivity, I’m all about it.)

The moral of this story is that Monday Matters.

  • Monday provides us with 24 hours to make progress on our goals.
  • Monday offers up the balance that need to in order to discover and live out purpose.A drum that plays at random and with no rhythm is a cacophony of noise, not the beat maker and dance director that it was created to be.
  • Monday reminds us that we can’t eat like a 897 pound gorilla and expect to jump out of bed with pep in our step.
  • Monday mentors us into making choices that benefit our future selves, verses always living in the sweet siren call of present self.
  • Monday means we are alive to live another glorious day on this planet.
  • Mondays that require an alarm mean we are either gainfully employed, or have people in our lives that are counting on us to provide diligent care. It reminds us that we are not alone.

So, on this Monday, remember that self-care means living in a way today that will help you thrive tomorrow. If you cast off restraint on the weekends, know that Monday is your personal trainer, chef, guide, assistant, and friend to make sure the entirety of your life doesn’t go off the rails.

 

A marathon is much more than 26.2 miles

If you ask a person how long a marathon is, you will get an extremely wide variety of answers. Of those answers, it is absolutely maddening to a full marathoner when someone tells you that they themselves have run a marathon, or their cousin has run a marathon, only to find out that they were referring to a random 5K that they did once. I don’t want to burst your bubble, but a 5K is only 3.1 miles. The “marathon” that these people supposedly ran can range anywhere from a friendly 1 mile charity run to an actual full marathon. I wish that when co-workers, family, friends, and strangers shared with me the tales of their tragedy and triumph, knee pain, and shin splints which resulted from their “marathon” that I could just smile and celebrate with them, but, in fact, I seethe inside. I arrogantly wonder how your 3 mile walk can compare to the 1700 miles I logged in the past 12 months, as if the marathon was my lover and you offended him.

You see, a true full marathon is 26.2 miles in distance, but it is, in fact, much more than that. The marathon is the story of a full season of dedication and preparation, discipline and dedication, fun and labor.

A marathon tells a deeply personal story.

I feel sorry for the people who have signed up for a marathon on a whim, and are just lucky enough to have youth on their side, so they finish this majestic event without giving it the proper training and respect that it deserves. Sure, if you are youthful and you haven’t let your muscles atrophy with disuse, you can stumble your way through this event. You might not be able to walk the next day, and you might curse the moment you were born, but you will receive a medal nonetheless.

To truly appreciate the marathon though, one should get a training plan, set a goal, and persevere through the entire season. The marathon won’t change you unless you fully invite it in. I would venture to assume finishing a marathon without embracing its essence is like the difference between a one night stand and a monogamous blissful marriage. They are incomparable.

As I train this season for my 10th full marathon, I am reminded to respect the distance, lean into process, and know that this journey to the finish line has very little to do with the actual event and everything to do with putting the work in day in and day out. This year, at least for the Pittsburgh Marathon, I am freeing myself from a time goal at the actual event and attempting  to run each training run with the respect that it deserves. My daily and weekly mileage exists for more than an arbitrarily set time by my ego and my comparisons of myself to others, it exists to make me stronger. I have no control over many of the conditions that I will face on race day, but I can determine the degree to which I allow myself to celebrate my trip to the starting line. Even a bad run for me is a good run because I am becoming the person I never dreamed I could be and yet always wanted to be.

I am alive. I am healthy. I am strong. I am fit. I am fierce. I am free.

The marathon, with all of its agony and beauty, has made me a better leader and person, but most importantly it gave birth to my identity as an athlete.

Marathon, you might be 26.2 miles on race day, but my journey has no finish line.

I get asked a lot about my training plans, nutrition, weight loss and maintenance, and running journey. I look forward to sharing with you about this and encouraging you on your path.

 

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Here is Jessica, with her amazing cousin Paul, before she and running hooked up. This photo was taken exactly 1 week before I began my nutrition and fitness journey, and about 4 months before I started run/walking to speed up my fitness journey. The rest is a beautiful love story because running spoke to my soul and no long was about weight.